alone

with jim. wife just left for her job in a town 3 hours away. this is the practice each week. she will return on thursday. if was a bad weekend. she babysat the grandchild. jim loves his grandchild way more than himself. i have heard you cannot love anyone more than you love yourself, like a love "bottleneck." in fact i heard it from jim. i have sat in jim's office many times when he told people just that. He would say, "you can't love anyone unless you love yourself, you can't take of someone more than you take care of yourself, and you can't honor anyone more than you honor yourself. but with jim these absolutes are not true. he went to his shrink on saturday at 11am. it was his first time with this person. he gets a shrink, starts to feel good, and then quits sharing his story. things plateau and he moves on to another one. this time may not be different but he shared this problem and she attempted to strategically have a plan to head this off. we'll see. oh, yea this weekend. he got drunk, stopped at a trailhead and when he got back to the car the battery was dead. he called his wife and she could not leave her babysitting responsiibility and jim walked 4 miles in 40 degree weater (t-shirt and flip flops) to get home . he was pissed and said hurtful things to his wife. blah, blah, blah. sameole sameole. what an idiot.